I founded ManHealth in late 2015. At this point in my life, I was struggling badly with my depression and because of the stigma attached to speaking out about it struggling to ask for support. I had been aware for many years that I had depression but chose to ignore it and allowed it to control and define my life. I did what many men do and put on a mask and got on with life. Around this time, a series of life challenges including divorce, restricted access to my daughter, redundancy and the illness of my mother finally made me too unwell to really function; and at this point I was thinking what’s the point? I thought nobody would be able to understand how I was feeling and they would be unable to help me anyway.
I now realise that this is how Depression wants you to think. It wants you to isolate yourself so it can get to work on your mind. It was at this point that I thought to myself, what if I could talk to another man who really understood my pain, someone who had been through it and was able to manage it? I realised that there must be thousands of men who are dying because they are too conditioned by our society to feel ashamed at confessing their struggles and are often told to man up or pull ourselves together when they try to reach out for help.
I threw myself into this distraction and ManHealth was created. ManHealth seeks not just to support men in the communities across County Durham Tyne & Wear and Northumberland but also to indirectly benefit their families and employers, as well as GPs, the NHS and voluntary sector organisations, which are destinations for men suffering with mental ill health. It is clear that many of these agencies do not always grasp the real need of these men suffering with mental health conditions. Their need for a listening ear; for time to offer advice and give them the knowledge to manage their illness and rebuild their confidence.
ManHealth seeks to be a response to a complex social issue.
Therefore, in some ways I am thankful for my Depression because it forced me to speak about my vulnerabilities and speak to people. It now no longer has control over my life. We understand one another. Due to regularly talking to friends and family I trust I can control the Black Dog.
- Just over three out of four suicides (76%) are by men and suicide is the biggest cause of death for men under 35 (Reference: ONS)
- 12.5% of men in the UK are suffering from one of the common mental health disorders
- Men are nearly three times more likely than women to become alcohol dependent (8.7% of men are alcohol dependent compared to 3.3% of women (Health and Social Care Information Centre)
- Men are more likely to use (and die from) illegal drugs
- Men are less likely to access psychological therapies than women.
- Over three quarters of people who kill themselves are men (Reference: ONS).
- Men report significantly lower life satisfaction than women in the Government’s national well-being survey – with those aged 45 to 59 reporting the lowest levels of life satisfaction (Reference: ONS)
- 73% of adults who ‘go missing’ are men (Reference: University of York).
- 87% of rough sleepers are men (Reference: Crisis).